Whom to marry, and when it will happen—these two questions define every woman’s existence, regardless of where she was raised or what religion she does or doesn’t practice. She may grow up to love women instead of men, or to decide she simply doesn’t believe in marriage. No matter. These dual contingencies govern her until they’re answered, even if the answers are nobody and never. Men have their own problems; this isn’t one of them.
Kate Bolick, Spinster: Making a Life of One’s Own (via lilitmarcus)