Life Support

On Tuesday night, at the lecture that Gabby Bernstein gave, one person asked after the Q&A how to deal with super negative coworkers. She tries to bring the light to her office but since she’s only human, she gets into a funk now and then and when she goes to her coworkers for a little bit of uplifting, they’ll just give her more of the same she’s giving herself: “you’re right, everything sucks,” “today’s so awful,” etc.

This obviously isn’t helpful.

Gabby told her, “those are NOT your people,” and to go find her support that will be uplifting when she’s in a funk. She said she was in a room full of like-minded spirit junkies and to get a number or two that night.

Compartmentalizing your friends isn’t ideal (at least not for me because I used to be an oversharer, for sure) but sometimes you have to do it. You can’t change anyone else, so you have to change how you handle yourself and ask for help, if and when you need it. Realizing that there are things that you should or shouldn’t tell a friend, because you know what their reaction is going to be (and it isn’t going to be helpful). There are those friends that you can talk to about your relationship, and those friends who you can go to when you’re having a bad day. There are those friends you run to when you want to know how you look in a certain dress – their real, honest opinion. Then there are your friends who you know you can tell about a new biz idea and others you want to keep your ideas to yourself.

Neither is better or worse, they’re just different. We’re all different and again, since you can’t change them, we have to change our expectations. 

I used to be one of those super negative friends (and I’ll admit it, I fall back into it sometimes), but I realized that it wasn’t helpful to anyone in the conversation if I fed into their negativity – or instilled some of my own, whoops. I just try to look on the bright side (and yes, admittedly, sometimes, I still suck at this but I try). The friend may snap back and be like, “STFU. I’m being serious,” but whatever. 

If you know someone will be negative about something, don’t tell them. It’ll just frustrate you and if being frustrated can be avoided, why the hell are you making your life harder by not avoiding it?

I spent the Fourth of July last week with one of my closest girlfriends, Kristen, at her house in New Jersey. We’d had plans to go to the beach but unfortunately it rained until about 5pm.

So in lieu of sand, we went to Wegman’s and bought all the food (pictured above) and grilled back at her house. We also watched The House at the End of the Street (so good!) and a documentary called The Woman Who Wasn’t There (also: so good!). 

Later that night we drove over to Manasquan Beach and walked the super adorable board walk. We saw fireworks a ways away in Asbury Park and that was more than sufficient enough for me. Soon enough we headed back to consume more chips and Oreos (because, America!) and watch Zodiac

It was a good Fourth of July. Obviously: there were no tourists. 

A Typical Super Bowl Sunday: Chicken wings, girlfriends, and Scarlett.

Last Sunday, my friend Kristen and I ventured out in freezing temperatures to see Cat on a Hot Tin Roof. It was also Super Bowl Sunday (which no one really cares about, right?) so we thought the perfect was to celebrate would be to experience some classic Tennessee Williams. After successfully purchasing rush tickets, we made our first stop to warm up and hydrate: Little Town (on Restaurant Row). This is one of my favorite places, but it was, very inconveniently, out of almost everything that day. Luckily, they still had wings, and pretzels, and beer.

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They were delicious. We were happy (happy meaning warm and fed). Since we were seeing a three-hour play, we went to caffeinate at Starbucks. We became even happier.

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Finally three o’clock rolled around and we took our side-orchestra seats. We were on the house-left side and although I believe these are sold as ‘partial view,’ there’s really nothing partial view about them. If you’re rushing Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, I suggest you request house left. The action takes place almost entirely center stage anyways.

This revival of Cat on a Hot Tin Roof is superior to the 2008 (?)  revival in every single way. I remember being completely underwhelmed at the Broadhurst Theatre when I saw it (but lets be clear that I just remember being there – the production was so unremarkable that I can’t recall anything about it).

The set is breathtaking and actually resembles a plantation home. The sound and lighting designs are equally as lovely, and effective.

The cast? Also: Wow. Everyone knows that Benjamin Walker is pretty and can sing, but Act II of Cat proves that the boy can act. He goes at it with Ciaran Hinds for almost the entire second act and they’re both amazing. I was a huge fan of Ciaran Hinds in The Seafarer and he doesn’t disappoint in this either. He has a huge stage presence that makes you know instantly why everyone calls him “Big Daddy.” While I  Debra Monk is fantastic, she once again played the same kind of character she always does: the scattered wife. 

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And then there’s Scarlett Johansson. She’s gorgeous, and I enjoy her in movies, but could she act on stage? I had missed by a hair her performance in A View From the Bridge so this was my second chance. Yes, she very much can act. I never once doubted her character, or the choices she made onstage. After her performance in Act 1, we were left feeling a bit, “That was awesome, but we want more Scarlett!” after the mostly-Scarlett-less Act 2. But in all seriousness, she was wonderful.

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Overall: It was the perfect Super Bowl Sunday.